What is really going on in “The Little Mermaid”?

One of the things we get to deal with as parents is the Disney princess machine. I think Disney has done a pretty good job remodeling the image of the prince, but the princesses haven’t moved nearly as far from their original incarnations. And even when the characters themselves are in some ways decent role models, the static image from the marketing department turns the focus to the most empty, superficial aspects of the character.

The Little Mermaid is almost an inverse of this maketing-undermines-message problem, in that the actual message of the film isn’t even directed at the film’s principle audience. As I say in my post about The Little Mermaid today at Babble, “Is Disney’s The Little Mermaid Just the Worst?”:

“Ariel, in other words, doesn’t grow. Triton grows, recognizing, in the end, the difference between maddened obsession and true love…”

The children who watch the film are presented with a charismatic role model who dreams big, and recklessly, and badly. And while the marketing usually plays up the static image of Ariel as someone who finds true love and whose dreams come true, this marketing message is very different from the message the film itself conveys to the audience that is supposed to identify with Triton, the character who does learn and grow: dads.

Ariel is the star of the show, though, so in that sense it is her character that is supposed to be the one bearing the important messages. What messages does she deliver?

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If You Give a Kid a Fish, Something Something Something.

If your kid asks you for help, what kind of help do you give?

…my daughter had to see it first; she might acknowledge that I knew what I was talking about, and defer to me, but she wouldn’t really believe it unless she did it herself.

Find out what this has to do with a pink umbrella and my own nay-saying at Parenting Off the Map.

Are You Trying to Find Work-Life Balance? That’s So Dumb.

Working Dad Talking On Phone Holding An InfantI’ve been working a lot lately. But I am in no way trying to find work-life balance.

“Anyway, the point of all of this preliminary stuff was to get to my discovery, yanked from my brain in the middle of wondering if any of the changes are worth it: Work-life balance is stupid. Who wants it? Perfect balance is entropy.”

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